Dear Lisi,
You always give the best advice. I am super shy and quiet with people I don’t know well yet. It’s BAD. The worst part is that the guy I like is really shy too and now I’m wondering if I have zero chance with him if he also thinks I’m intimidating. Can you give me any tips on how to seem more approachable? Help!
~ Em
Dear Em,
Nothing new is easy at first. Greatness of any kind begins with a goal. Then we do the hard, uncomfy work required to reach it. That’s what my latest series, Pretenders is all about. Confidence is one of those qualities that grows as you exude it. Soon what you once pretended you now possess.
I’m not suggesting you wake up tomorrow, charge into school all smiles and personality. Just take tiny steps each day toward your goal and before you know it that ice block will melt into a cube, then a puddle, and in time the whole darn thing will evaporate. When it does, Em, please send it to California. We need the rain.
TTYW,
Lisi
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Hey Lisi!
You are so right! I Love Your Advice. Truly Ah-Mazing And So Are you.
Love the advice!
montdormama
Dear Lisi,
I know you give the best advice.
Well, I like this guy, but he likes my friend more than me. But he likes me a lot. How can a guy like two girls? And what do I do to make him like me more? Please help!
-Jade <3
Hi Lisi!
Not to be cliché with everyone’s opening line of “You always give the best advice,” but it’s true. I don’t know what to do in this situation, and I thought you’d be able to give me some really great advice. The thing is, I’m really bad at friendships when it comes to dealing with emotions. Whenever one of my friends is upset, going through a breakup, or even just stressed, I never know what to do to comfort them. Today, one of my best friends had a break down during school. She had been very stressed lately, we just took a test she was pretty sure she failed, and she just learned yesterday that a close family friend had passed away. Then, during English, our teacher flipped out on her, and she just lost it. I found her sobbing in the bathroom after class, and I didn’t know what to do. I just stood there, awkwardly patted her back, and told her it would be okay. I feel like I was giving her the wrong impression that I don’t care about her problems. But I do care. The problem is I never know what to do when someone is going through a hard time. It’s just awkward for me. Am I emotionally detached or something? What should I do in these situations? How should I comfort my friends?
~ Hailey (sorry for how long this is)