How Good Girls Can Date Bad Boys

Anyone who begins their comment with, “Lisi, you always give the best advice…” is going to get my advice. That’s how well I respond to compliments. No one knows this better than Mikaelya. Check it:

Lisi, you always have the best advice… so what should I do? I really like this guy at my school (he’s a year older thank gawd) but he’s not into good stuff. I’ve heard tons of bad things about him from everyone who knows him (like he use to be a dealer (maybe still is), is obsessive when he likes a girl, pretty much goes to raves every night, and other things). I don’t want to judge him because of what other people have said, because when we’ve talked he’s been so nice, sweet, and funny. I’ve been trying to stop liking him but I can’t. What should I do??

Oh, Mikaelya. Sweet, sweet Mikaelya. You’ve already made your first mistake. Trying NOT to like someone is as effective as trying not to dream. It’s out of our control, we all know that. Accept that the heart wants what the heart wants, even when the brain has a a major problem with it, and move on.

If there is some truth to the rumors you want to be careful. So here’s what I suggest. Make a list of values that are important to you (Honesty, safety, trust, self-esteem, not breaking the law…) Add some qualities you want from BadBoy (Respect, good judgement, no tartar…) Then ways you want BadBoy to make you feel (Safe, appreciated, heard, goddess…).

After each BadBoy encounter check your list. If being with him has made you stray from anything on it, draw an X through that item and then draw a bigger X across his “obsessive” face. Because he’s done. D-z-u-n, DZUN!

If, however, you are able to hang out with him, without sacrificing who you are or what you believe in, treat yourself to a box of glowsticks and Google “nearest rave”.

Same goes for all of you crush-puppies. Know what you want and don’t compromise. It takes courage and confidence. If you don’t know how to get courage or confidence I’d be happy to tell you… Just begin your comment with, “Lisi, you always give the best advice…” and check back here next Wednesday.

TTYW,

Lisi

Comments

  1. KastasiaD says:

    Lisi, you always give the best advice… I need help. I had a guy friend named Joseph. I had a crush on him and told him. He said ‘Lemme get to know you better first.’ And I’ve known him for almost a month. One of my friends, Una, he’s only known for a few days, and I just found out they’re dating. They both knew how I felt but they didn’t care. Now I can’t stop crying. It’s like clockwork. Before school, after school, at bedtime. What do I do???

  2. Lisi, you always give the best advice… So there’s this guy I met and we talked for a good hour and just clicked. At that moment, I started to get bubbly feelings in the pit of my stomach.. We chatted on Facebook and then BAMN. He told me he has a g i r l f r i e n d . I was heartbroken. I’d never break girl code so I just pretended it didn’t bother me and continued to chat with him.

    So, he eventually told me like a week later he was ‘thinking about me’ and had a dream about me. He said I asked him out in the dream and he said yes. He said it was awk but really nice.. In that moment my heart started to go crazy again. Of course, I never notice him in school before I met him; now I see him twice a day. He walks his gf to class and he’ll say hey to me too.

    Every thursday i see him in the library afterschool. I’ve kinda given him the cold shoulder because I don’t want to like him if he has a girlfriend but I just can’t help it. (Last week he asked for my number but I kinda played it off) What do you think I should do? 😦

  3. Biebs Girl says:

    Lisi, you give the best advice… What do you think about dating someone whose younger than you and way shorter? This really sweet guy is a Freshman and he told me he had a crush on me. I’m a Junior and my friends always say it’d be soooo wrong to even think about it. But I am. I’m about 5″4 and I’m pretty sure he’s like 5’4 or maybe slightly taller or shorter. Its jut kinda awk how he’s a height close to mine. What do you think?

  4. Lisi, u always give the best advice, but there are this 2 girls @ my school I’m friends with some of their friends whose names r Joanna and Barb. On the last day of winter break, the 2 girls named Emanuella and Grace, and Barb and their other friend Shauna all wore pj’s w/ out telling me! I felt so left out and then my BFF Taylor always has candy @ lunch time and they complained that they never get candy from Taylor, when Taylor gave them candy and they went outside for recess, they complained that their stomachs were hurting! I always afraid 2 talk around them becuz they might say something bad about me. Our school play is Willy Wonka and when they had a pizza party I tried sitting beside Grace and Emanuella but they moved twice when i tried 2 sit by them. Lisi, I don’t know what 2 do anymore. Becuz once Shauna threw out my Vera Bradley ID case ON PURPOSE! Becuz she had one and she was jealous of mine. I really don’t know what 2 do. I’ve talked 2 the school social worker but nothing yet. Could u pls help me?

  5. Lisi, u ALWAYS give the best advice. I REALLY need your help. I like a guy named Ashton, but I can’t seem to get him to notice me! I tried everything from perfume, fashionable clothes, and even Massie’s funny comebacks!! NOTHING is working!! Can u give me advice on how I can get him to notice me? (Ashton is a kind of gamer boy while im a fashion designer/lover kind of girl, if that will help u).

  6. kikicbrownee says:

    Lisi, you really do always give the best advice, and i’m taking a shot here asking for some. So there’s this guy we’ll call Ben. He’s my best guy friend and we’ve been friends for almost three years. Honestly, I’ve liked him ever since I’ve met him. We’re real and honest with each other and I feel like we get along well. Recently (like in the past month), we’ve gotten even closer as friends have gotten jobs/boyfriends/husbands (I’m in college) and sometimes I find him flirting with me and us having a really good time. But then other days (like when we go to basketball and volleyball games) he doesn’t talk as much. I really am trying to invite him over and spend time with him but it’s just really confusing and difficult. Here’s the thing…he could be the real deal, but I will never know unless we try things out and date. I know in this situation a lot people worry about ruining the friendship, but I think that if he doesn’t like me, then we’d probably stop being friends and I’d be able to move on. The main reason I’m such good friends with him is because I’ve always hoped there might be something more. I realize I sound a bit pathetic for liking this guy for two years, but I feel like I’m ready to tell him. I just have no idea how to bring it up, what to do, and what I would say if there were a negative outcome? Its all kind of a confusing situation for me, and especially lately I’ve had trouble like any other guys because I only like him. I don’t know…I get really excited by the prospect that I could possibly date Ben, but then there’s the other part that I don’t let myself think about…that I’ll be totally heartbroken if it doesn’t work out. Any advice? I need some courage and confidence! 🙂

  7. Lisi, you always give the best advice… I really like this guy like I really do but I don’t think he likes me back. It’s hard to tell because he’s not so emotional and at the same time two other girls have a thing for him also! One girl is absolutley stunning so I know there can’t be much of a competition (no hate she’s such a nice girl) and the other girl confided to me long before I liked him that she might like like him, I began to have feelings for him soon after so now I feel like a pig. My friend claims he likes me but we only talk in school and thats all. I know this is a dumb problem but whatever. Thanks!

    • I know the feeling, I was going through almost the EXACT SAME THING just a few weeks ago. Two of my friends are crushing on my ex and it was so confusing!! I really recommend the three of you talk it out, and tell the guy. There is no way it’ll work out for all three of you so it’s best to just rip off the band aid. The last thing you want to do is cling to the hope that doesn’t exist. I know this isn’t the best of advice, but it really helped in my case. I hope things work our for the best for you!!

  8. Lisi, you always give the best advice… that is all 😉

  9. That was so amazing, I’ll definitely use this when I’m crushing!!
    Thanks so much Lisi!

  10. Lisi, you always give the best advice… So give me some tips at writing. My name is Emma, I’m in the fifth grade and 10. I definitely know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking why would i need tips on that. Well I’ve always been mature,really. I like coffee,books,art,painting,and writing. I write on miss literati and wattpad. Im asking you because you are my favorite author besides sarah dessen but I love you’re books so much. (The Clique,Monster High, and now Pretenders.) I’m into writing supernatural stuff. (I have other ideas: adopted witch, society taking over,zombies, etc. I do write girly books though) I am working on one book right with one chapter and I don’t know what to do. I am about to work on it though. I just need tips. So please help lisi. 😀

  11. Lisi,
    I am a Clique fan. I know, I know, you’re bracing yourself for a nag fest, full of “why’d you end it”s and “I miss it so much”s. I certainly could go that route, but instead I’d just like for you to know that the clique really truly and honestly was my guide through middle and high school. It was there with me, the girls were there with me, and your funny, quirky insight was my guiding light. To this day I still find myself in friendship/romance situations that Massie or Claire were in, and I fully remember how they handled them (And I’m now a senior in high school! eh-mah-gawd). And as much as I admire these works and the messages they convey, I can’t help but feel like you sold out a bit with Monster High.I just don’t see the spark and personal connection you had with the Clique girls with your odd franken students. I know the Clique series was becoming lengthy and you wanted to explore more avenues, but I just wish that those other avenues had spoken more truly to who you are and your personal life experiences. Nonetheless, I do and will continue to hold you as one of my most beloved authors and (as juvenile and naive as it seems), I will always be on the lookout for more stories from my favorite committee of all time. Hope all is well,
    -Your Super(Old)Fan Gaby

    • Gaby,
      Thank you for your honesty. I understand why you’re saying that. Keep in mind that I did not invent Monster High. The dolls came first. Mattel, the toy company that makes them approached me to write the series and there were several guidelines in place that I had to follow. I was hesitant at first because I’ve never thought of myself as a ghoul’s ghoul or a guideline follower. But after falling in love with the dolls I decided to go for it to challenge and stretch myself. I’m glad I did it. It was a fantastic experience and a big success. That said, when I was done I was eager to go back to something that was 100% me and out came Pretenders. It has more of that “Lisi” vibe that you liked in The Clique so check it out.

  12. Wow Lisi you do give the best advice

  13. Lisi, you always give the best advice…how do you think of such ah-mazing and clever puns? I want to come up with my own, especially as interesting titles for school projects.
    P.S. I love you(not loathe), your books, and your blog!
    <3Nicole

  14. I’ve never understood why good girls like bad boys. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

  15. Lisi, you always give the best, most ahh-mazing advice EVER!!! (okay, maybe I’m sucking up a bit, but it’s true) I have a serious question. Why do people put time on love? I just recently started this guy and he told me he loved and I said it back because I truly felt it, but my friends keep making a big deal about how we already say I love you. When is it okay to say those three words, and how do we know? Is there some unwritten rule that says you can’t say I love you until you have been dating for two months? or a year? Why doesn’t anyone believe in love at first sight anymore? Do I need to be concerned about what my friends think, or should I just follow my heart, even if it is running on turbo speed?

  16. Wow. Can I just give you a round of applause (clap clap clap)? I knew you would understand me and give the best advice I could ever of hoped for. Sorry, I haven’t responded earlier, but I just saw this and thank you so much for answering my cry of help (I was on that final study grind all last week). You are so right. Trying to not like him is like hot guys becoming werewolves: impossible. And it’s also like you read my mind. I have always told myself that I wouldn’t change for a guy and I was definitely losing that during this crush. I literally LOL’ed when you wrote, “Make a list of values that are important to you (Honesty, safety, trust, self-esteem, not breaking the law…) Add some qualities you want from BadBoy (Respect, good judgement, no tartar…) Then ways you want BadBoy to make you feel (Safe, appreciated, heard, goddess…).” Cause I guess it slipped my mind that dealing was illegal, and I definitely want a guy who doesn’t break the law. And the no tartar AHAHAHA you’re so right Lisi, I don’t want a guy who’s done that stuff. And of course I want the guy I like to make me feel like a goddess 😉 which this guy obviously doesn’t. Thank you for opening my eyes to what I really want in a guy 🙂 I love you, Lisi!!!!!

  17. Hey Lisi! I have a situation! Okay, it’s been over for about 2-3 years! But I’m still in high school. So this one guy, super cute, he supposedly liked me ever since 8th grade to what grade it was currently (freshman year) and we would always text and never talk! I mean, he only said hi in the halls or stared at me. It was weird but everyday I came home, we texted and then I started getting attached to him and so I started texting him first (bad move! I know) and so then he wouldn’t really ever text me first because I guess he was used to getting my texts first. He was really shy, and he tried to bash my friend who also liked him at the time. He really hated her for no reason too. And he lied about her when I asked him about her and stuff. He was really flakey kind of. I don’t really know how to explain the relationship really. It was just weird. 😦

  18. Lisi, you always give the best advice and so, here I am to ask you for your wisdom, since this has been bothering me for days.
    There was this guy I met two years ago; we were very close but we drifted apart because I focused on this other guy. Once he saw me focusing on the other guy, he drifted apart and at the start of this year, I only found out that he liked me back then (when we were close). He obviously moved on since it has been a year since we last talked. We talked the other day and I found myself missing him and liking him.
    Now I like him and it’s sad to say that I only realized my feelings for him when it was too late. How could I rekindle our friendship now that things are awkward between us after that incident?

    Sincerely,
    Chloe

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  22. Lisa you give the best advice…….. this has really helped me but what should I do if the bad boy I like doesn’t like me back how should I get his attention? I am in big need of help thanks.

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