Comments on: BFF or Bully? https://lisiharrison.com/for-the-self/bff-or-bully/ Sat, 22 Nov 2014 20:20:02 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.0.8 By: Novella https://lisiharrison.com/for-the-self/bff-or-bully/#comment-2716 Sat, 22 Nov 2014 20:20:02 +0000 http://lisiharrison.com/?p=1956#comment-2716 Hey Anon! I just wanted to let you know that I was in literally the EXACT SAME situation a few years earlier. I knew that my best friend was having a lot of problems outside of school, so she decided to make me feel inferior. Knowing that she had power over someone boosted her self confidence and made her feel better. I completely understood that there was a lot of things going on in her life, but at the same time, my parents and my gut kept telling me that it wasn’t okay to handle her bullying. When I did confront her, she got a bit defensive, broke down, and made it seem like she wasn’t doing anything wrong at all. She completely avoided the situation. Confronting her was very hard, but it did help. Verbalizing my problems made her realize her mistakes, even if she didn’t admit it. After she was aware of what she was doing, she silently started to change her ways. I noticed that she started to make up for what she had done to me by doing what she should have done originally with me to others, if that makes sense.

It’s been four to five years after the incident. Now, everyone believes she’s a very sweet person, and she is. She’s still a bit cautious around me, but I know that she is trying very hard not to revert back to her old self, and is finding other ways to vent her frustration. It does get better, and while your friendship with this Alpha may not be the same, it won’t disappear completely. Your BFF just needs to learn her lesson.

]]> By: kaykay https://lisiharrison.com/for-the-self/bff-or-bully/#comment-2715 Fri, 21 Nov 2014 22:58:55 +0000 http://lisiharrison.com/?p=1956#comment-2715 hi Lisi Harrison I love your books very very much. they inspire me. Just because you might have something no one else has that don’t mean bring that person down.Right know I am working on a book called me and my crew.im only 12 year-old and I very proud of myself.thanks a lot keep doing what you love and never give up

]]> By: Lisi Harrison https://lisiharrison.com/for-the-self/bff-or-bully/#comment-2714 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 20:30:39 +0000 http://lisiharrison.com/?p=1956#comment-2714 In reply to Kailee.

Love your comment Kailee. Thanks for sharing your post! xo

]]> By: Kailee https://lisiharrison.com/for-the-self/bff-or-bully/#comment-2713 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 04:20:56 +0000 http://lisiharrison.com/?p=1956#comment-2713 This happened to me a lot in 7th grade (I wrote a blog post about it here: http://peach-lemonade.blogspot.com/2014/03/the-bullied.html) and it was really hard! My friends would tease me all the time, at church and school especially and I’d go home crying to my mom about how they’d told this one boy I liked him (and I definitely didn’t like him) or how they’d ditch me at school all the time to get rid of me. I called them my friends but they really were being such jerks. I should have confronted them about it, but I was young and I don’t even know if that crossed my mind. If I had though, I think it would have stopped because I’m not really sure if they even knew how much it was hurting me, I think they just thought I thought it was funny because I always laughed with them or put on a smile so I wouldn’t look stupid. Maybe your case is the same and your friend doesn’t even realize how much she’s hurting you. I definitely think asking her to stop is a great idea. Thankfully for me, the next year, I had more friends come to that school and I started to hang out with them more and the bullying kind of stopped.

My advice to you is to also find other friends to hang out with or eat lunch with. You don’t even have to spend all your time with them, but spend some time apart from this other girl and have a change of scenery with someone else who’ll treat you nicely and the way you deserve. Easier said than done, I know, but who knows what could happen, right? Also, I just want you to know that no matter what happens, one day you’ll back at this, maybe still friends with those girls, maybe friends with new ones.. I moved and made better friends in my new town, and grew apart from those other girls, but you’ll be totally fine and this won’t be forever. You are so nice and I hope you can have friends who treat you so great, you deserve it! Bullying is never okay and you are so brave to ask about it and how to deal with it. Good luck 🙂 (sorry for the long comment, ah!)

]]> By: Shaila Gottlieb https://lisiharrison.com/for-the-self/bff-or-bully/#comment-2712 Thu, 20 Nov 2014 02:33:55 +0000 http://lisiharrison.com/?p=1956#comment-2712 You are so smart Lisi…I love your advice…it’s important at any age as there are always bullies.

xoxo

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