Comments on: Might As Well Face It You’re Addicted To…Potential.

By: Casey

Casey — Sun, 17 Dec 2017 16:12:59 +0000

This is such a great post <3

By: Lisi Harrison

Lisi Harrison — Wed, 06 Dec 2017 18:19:54 +0000

In reply to Lisi Harrison. I meant alter. Not create alter. I have no clue what that even means. Sometimes my fingers are too fast for my brain.

By: Lisi Harrison

Lisi Harrison — Wed, 06 Dec 2017 18:19:09 +0000

In reply to Kayla. Don't give up on her. Just create alter the relationship so you don't feel drained by it. Maybe create some distance and boundaries. Be clear on what kind of behavior you will and will not accept.

By: Kiana

Kiana — Wed, 06 Dec 2017 02:59:03 +0000

In reply to Lisi Harrison. Okay. I will try to do this. I just have to introduce it and keep it in mind everyday. It's kind of hard when also other people say "oh, you and so-so are not getting along? Allow me to force you guys to get along." But even then, I'll keep this advice in mind. It saves you a lot of lost happiness that is lost when choosing peace instead. I can't wait for your blog tomorrow!

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 03:00:14 +0000

Thank you for this post! It has me thinking about things differently than I have been. I’m going to follow this advice and spend less time thinking of ways to help others change and more time focusing on accepting who and what they are. In so many ways I feel a responsibility to help those who are close to me. It’s hard to watch them drag themselves and those around them down when from my perspective they have so much to be happy and grateful for. I wish I could make them see themselves in my eyes. But I guess that’s me being addicted to their potential haha. I’m going to give this new approach a shot and not let their unhappiness ware on me so much. I love your writing and advice for all of us. Thank you!
-L

By: Kayla

Kayla — Fri, 01 Dec 2017 23:46:56 +0000

Thank you so much for this! It was very helpful. I just don’t really wanna give up on my friend even after that advice.

By: Lisi Harrison

Lisi Harrison — Thu, 30 Nov 2017 21:13:19 +0000

In reply to Kiana. I am so incredibly sorry for what you went through and what you're going through now. I really am. I can relate to so much of it. The reason I keep stressing to focus on yourself is to keep you from letting their issues become yours. More than they already have. Why? Because, like I stressed, you can't change them. You can only change how much they affect you. And your dad? This is his journey. Give him the dignity to figure this crap out for himself. Maybe he will. Maybe he won't. But these are his choices, for better or worse. Focus on yours. I know, easier said than done. When you get better at this you will be amazed at how much happier you become. Pinky Swear.

By: Kiana

Kiana — Thu, 30 Nov 2017 09:09:43 +0000

Lisi, this couldn’t have come on a better day. I am trying to learn this more and more everyday. I know it one-hundred percent. If I could share with you my high school past, you would see I had needed this advice then. I was friends with a girl who I kept holding on to but then your Clique series had came into my life then and after it all (6 years, I know, long and a bad number), I realize it’s better to let go than to hold on aka it’s better to “be a friendless loser than have tons of friends who secretly hate you.” Don’t worry, that lesson part for friends has been learned one-hundred percent. I have no bad friends in my life. I only have one great online friend (also checks off my list) now. Your books made us become friends too!
Only problem still is my mother. Seven years of wishing one day my parents would divorce. I hate her guts. She makes my dad a weakling who chooses peace over happiness. Although, that peace isn’t for him, it’s for my mother. She’s overly religious and I told myself the second I become independent, I’ll f*** her out of my life. Just f*** her and her stupid religion and crap. She threatens my dad to divorce every time he does something “wrong.” But he’s a fool who REALLY needs to learn this lesson. I’ll send it to him. But I will get my mother back for everything she did to me. Don’t worry, nothing physical (nothing except for a few slaps when I was little). All emotional abuse though.