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Best Boy/Friend

Lisi Harrison — Thu, 13 Nov 2014 03:28:22 +0000

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Q: Hi Lisi! I have a question I’ve been wondering about and I feel like you would give a great answer to. How do you tell a certain guy you like him? i’ve been best friends with this guy for years and I think it might be turning into something more, but it seems like we’re both afraid to cross over that barrier and see what the other is thinking. I realize telling him and finding out he’s not interested could ruin our friendship but I’m ready to take the risk. I’m just not sure how..Any words of wisdom? Thanks! you’re the best!
– Sara

Sara, this is a great question I’m sure a lot of readers have wondered themselves. I don’t blame you for being curious about whether or not your close relationship with your best guy friend could turn into something more. But there are a few things to keep in mind before taking the leap and potentially losing the connection you now have with him.

1. READ THE SIGNS

Has your friendship changed in ways that make you think your guy friend is romantically into you? Think back to his words and actions. Does he worry about and consistently consider your feelings, act protective over you when it comes to other guys you’ve been interested in, and show you his emotional side? These might be signs he’s into you as more than a friend, but if he’s always talking about your hot friend or treats you just like one of the guys, you may want to stay in platonic territory.

2. KEEP IT LIGHT

Guys are repelled by complicated dating situations, so if you choose to start a conversation about where each of you stand do your best to keep things light and easy. You’ll need to be a little bit vulnerable to open up a dialogue about your feelings, but there are noncommittal ways of doing this so you can save as much face as possible if things go awry. At a time when you’re joking with your guy friend or having fun together, find a way to test the waters. Maybe you’re watching a funny movie together where the central characters have a situation similar to yours and end up dating and falling in love. Throw out a “Well this really is fiction because friends falling in love almost never works out. What do you think?” If he’s on the same page as you, he’ll see this as an opportunity to explain why friends turning romantic can potentially work. If he’s not thinking of you in the romantic sense, or truly believes dating a friend is a recipe for disaster resulting in the loss of a great friendship, he’ll be sure to express that too.

3. BE PREPARED FOR THE WORST

You mentioned you are at a place where you’re ready to risk possibly ruining the friendship with your guy friend in order to tell him how you feel. It’s completely possible to share your feelings with him and keep the friendship strong even if he’s not thinking of you in the same way, though it will probably shift the connection you two have for a while. You won’t necessarily lose him altogether, but you have to keep that possibility in mind. It would be easy for me to say that keeping the friendship in tact is the wisest choice in your situation, but I know it’s not always realistic. If you are certain you’ll be able to handle losing the friendship or making things awkward to the point of changing your friendship dynamic forever, then take a leap and see what happens. You already know the worst case scenario, but at present you don’t know what the best case outcome might be. Stay cool, keep things light, hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Good luck!!!

I’m loving all the crush questions that have been submitted lately but next week we’re going to shift gears a bit. Send me questions you have on writing, school or social woes. Can’t wait to read your thoughts.

TTYW,

Lisi

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Q&A Continued

Lisi Harrison — Wed, 02 Jul 2014 23:35:25 +0000

I’ve loved reading all the questions you’ve submitted to me through the Blah-g and Facebook. I’m working my way through them and going to keep video responding over the next couple of weeks to make sure I get to all of you. Looks like my days of writing with bed head are over. You sure know how to force a girl to clean up.

Shame on you person who invented video. SHAME ON YOU!

Today’s response is for Adia.

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TTYW,

Lisi…

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Raging Glitch Part 2

Lisi Harrison — Thu, 26 Jun 2014 23:18:43 +0000

I said nothing would stop me from answering your questions and I meant it. Does it matter that my video responses are coming two days later than I said? Maybe it does. But I put my heart into these answers and then raced off to the Santa Monica Public Library for NOVL’s Summer Soiree where I got to meet some of you in person. Here’s Jack from Tuesday. How cute is he?

This reader walked up and I knew right away Massie was her favorite. I can tell everyone’s favorite Clique or Pretenders character in an instant.

Special nails for License to Spill’s release.

She’s so a Sheridan.

I’m back in the office, working hard to respond to your questions. Gustavo, Rebecca, and Maya, I’ve answered you today. More to come next week on the Blah-g and be sure to check my Facebook page for more photos from the Summer Soiree.

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Raging Glitch

Lisi Harrison — Thu, 19 Jun 2014 00:59:32 +0000

Did you miss the NOVL Summer Soiree Spreecast last week? Yep, me too. Tech support tried for over an hour to get me on so I could answer your questions and dish on License to Spill (June 24) but I was a Spreecast outcast and we never got to hang.

Well, if you honestly think a glitch is going to stop me from answering your questions, there’s an even bigger glitch that needs dealing with and it’s your faith in me. No way I’m going to pass up an opportunity to answer your questions. NO! WAY! Ask me anything about anything on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or in a comment here on the Blah-g. I’ll personally answer all of your questions by video and post them on Pub Day (Tuesday the 24th). Maybe sooner if it’s a time sensitive matter.

Annnnnd, I will randomly pick one lucky asker to win a signed copy of Pretenders and License to Spill.

Your view.

My view. (This will be your view soon too.)

You may want to start by asking why my thumb is so red in that picture.

TTYT,

Lisi

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