Faking Amazing.

A show of hands  if you feel confident today.

I didn’t see any so I assume your self-esteem is close to mine–somewhere between the sole of my wedge and the depths of hell. October will do that to a girl. Tans are fading, homework is piling up, and our exciting new back-to-school outfits are sooo last month.

I mean look at this hair!!!

It would appear as though all hope is lost. Or at the very least, my brush. But I seriously hate being unhappy. Okay fine, I like it for a few minutes because unhappy can be kind of funny.  But after I milk some laughs from my pathetic situation I prefer to feel good. So here are five things I do to get my confidence back.

1. Channel Surf: Sheridan Spencer is one of the main characters in my new series The Phoenix Five. She is a 14 year-old actress who struggles with self-confidence. So she channels celebrities like Blake Lively, Anna Kournikova, and Massie Block.

She what?

She adopts the qualities of a famous actress or character. But wait! If you are Miley fan I am nawt suggesting you butcher your hair. Because you may want to be Rapunzel the next day. It’s more of a persona thing. Pinpoint the qualities you admire in a role model and borrow them for the day. Those who can’t be, act. Those who can’t act move on to tip #2.

2. Look Away: Get ready for school, work, date, soccer…whatever. Put the final touches on your hair, makeup, clothes, pose… and DO NOT look in a mirror, reflective window, spoon…for the rest of the day. Go out with the image of you looking fabulous in your head and don’t look back. It really works. I swear. Sometimes I’ll catch my reflection and get upset because I thought I looked better than I actually do. But had I resisted the urge to peek I would have spent the day thinking I look fabulous. And we all know what happens when we exude confidence don’t we? That’s right, we look great. Then people compliment us and we feel great which makes us look better which gets us more compliments which…move on to #3…

3. Keep a compliment journal: I know, this sounds totally shallow and pathetic but my sister Carly turned me on to the idea and she is neither. She teaches courses on the power of thinking positively and journals are a big part of it. Jot down every time someone gives you a compliment, not just on your looks, but on anything (Grades, kindness, soccer skills, nail polish…) you can refer back to it every time you’re feeling down. Seeing all of those positive comments will make you feel good and we all know what happens when you feel good (see #2).

4. Wear a bright color. Something you don’t normally wear. Bright colors project confidence and they make people happy. If your bright colors make people happy they will:

a) Want to be around you which will make you feel good.

b) Compliment you which will give you something to put in your journal, which will  make you feel good.

c) All of the above.

Answer: C (for confident).

5.  When all else fails: Download: I Feel Pretty/Unpretty by the cast of Glee. Blast the volume. Repeat as needed. It has a better cure rate than the flu shot.

Now go break hearts!!!!




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  • emily* says:

    yeah where is she?

  • Arianna says:

    Emily- Yeah, I do. But I’m kinda failing at it so I don’t see publication in my future.
    Skye- Eh, don’t let it get to you.

  • emily* says:

    Ari-thats a cool major, so u wanna be a writer cool i love all the writing u post here

    skye-yes yes yes

  • Skye says:

    I know it won’t but still…

  • Arianna says:

    Skye- If it makes you feel better, it doesn’t feel any different than being 17. It really doesn’t.

  • Skye says:

    Oh, nothing. My birthday is a little less than a month away and I’ll be 18. It snuck up on me a little faster than usual this year.

  • Skye says:

    Does anyone else want to stop time so they don’t have to get any older?

  • Arianna says:

    Emily- No, those classes were just a joke. One teacher was too old to care, and in all the other ones my teachers were just too boring. I always sat in the back too. That was nice. And I’m majoring in Creative Writing. And thank you so much! Twas’ a nice blog post, in my opinion.

  • emily* says:

    Ari-wow ur really smart to be able to sleep through advanced classes, whats ur major in college? oh and i read ur blog post, sooo good i wonder who is gorgeous guy is

  • Arianna says:

    Emily- Ja, ich spreche Deutsch. Or at least I’m learning to. And honestly, even though college seems like a lot of work, since you’re free to do what you want, when you want, it’s really not that bad at all. I like it a whole lot. I feel so free and responsible. I take care of myself and I don’t really ahve to depend on anyone. It’s nice not to have a super strict schedule and parents telling you what to do.

    But yeah, high school pretty much sucks. All I can say is try to buck up and make the best out of it. Junior year was a breeze for me. I didn’t really learn anything, I slept pretty much all year (And I was in advanced classes!). Sophomore year is pretty much a blur to me.

  • emily* says:

    Ari-wow thats a lot ur taking german? thats so cool! Im good but idk ive been back at school for a month and i already cant wait for it to be over its so much work and its only my sophomore year of hs so i really dont wanna know what junior year is gonna be like

  • Arianna says:

    Emily- Eh, it’s okay. I have two quizzes to study for tomorrow, a poetry portfolio to work on, and my German mid-term on Friday. How have you been?

  • emily* says:

    hey anyone on?

  • Arianna says:

    New picture of Bebe! So cute!

  • srishti says:

    Hey I just tried out the ‘don’t look at your reflection’ thing, and it worked!!!! I feel fabulous and am terribly high on coffee!!!!!

  • Haylee says:

    Laura- Moffat era meaning Steven Moffat’s era. A lot of Whovians think that Moffat is the reason why DW is not as good as it used to be and that he is a “bad” writer. And I have to agree with them somewhat, I really loved RTD era, and while DW is still a good show, it’s not as good as it used to be. And the Ponds have stuck around for too long. But at least it’s not Sera Gamble and Julie Plec lol. And I like 9 but 10 is my favorite 😀 And I love Doctor and Rose together! They’re one of my top 5 fav couples. And I really liked Donna too.
    And thanks for the advice! But at the same time I feel like I don’t have the right to tell her how she should treat me because she already does so much for me and I really respect her, even if I’m not showing it. And I get what you mean about dads. Me and my dad are so different, even our political views are different! Usually we argue, he lectures me and later starts laughing. It’s pretty annoying.

    • Laura says:

      So is the tenth doctor the RTD era then? And I just watched the series two finale. I cried.

      My dad and I have literally nothing in common. Except maybe DNA. And even that seems a bit sketchy…haha jk. Hope you figure things out though! 😉

  • Maggie says:

    I love making friends. I usually prefer to make them out of plaster and give them funny looking hats.

  • Haylee says:

    Um I’m really sorry if I’m going to come off annoying or anything but I really want to say something. Do you guys ever feel like there’s no one in this universe who completely loves you for you? I’ve never felt it-romantically, familially or friendship-wise. But one day I want to be happy and I want it to hit me like this: Sometimes pain becomes a huge part in your life that you expect it to always be there……because you can’t remember a time where it wasn’t. But then one day you feel something else-something that feels so wrong, only because it feels so unfamiliar. And in that moment you realize……..you’re happy.
    I really love this quote. I always feel so insecure, I used to try really hard but even then I didn’t get what I want, so I didn’t try as hard and then I always felt uber depressed. I feel like I’m always the weirdo standing in a room filled with normal people, I always feel tired, I have a stuttering issue, one of my former teachers said something about me that really stuck to me and everytime I think of it, I feel like crying; I’m kinda ugly and awkward and I feel really envious of you guys. It’s like the life and sense out of my soul has been sucked out of my body and I feel discouraged because I don’t really have anybody. I always say and do the wrong stuff even though I don’t mean to. And I’m posting this here because it’s easier than talking to someone face to face. I really want to be able to have a common understanding with someone or a good friend but I’m either surrounded by jackasses, or people who are so much better than me or it’s my own fault. I really want to change that. I’m really unhappy. And I hate myself. And I really wish I had someone who helped me back up and gave me motivation because I really want to kill myself. I’m embarassed and I’m probably going to gtfo after this.

    • Hi Haylee, I don’t think I’ve ever talked to you before (I haven’t commented in awhile) but I’m here if you need to talk about anything. Everyone hits low points in their life and we all deserve someone to get through it with.


      • Haylee says:

        Thank you, Dawn. I just really feel bad about myself and it’s gotten much worse. I cry over every little thing (not publically though) and it makes me feel like there’s heavy breathing in my chest. And then I wonder to myself what’s the big deal, but I can’t stop it. 🙁 And also I’m listening to Ungodly Hour by The Fray right now. It’s a really beautiful song.

    • Arianna says:

      Hey, listen to me, everyone feels like that during some point of there life. Honestly, it would be easier to put a gun to your head and let it all be over, but it’s not worth. It never is and it never will be. You’re a bright and beautiful girl, Haylee. I can tell by your comments and how you always seem to be so happy and so into certain things. Your obsession with Vampire Dairies is so crazy it’s inspiring and I love that you love something that much. That’s what makes your you and it’s amazing. You’re amazing because of that.

      No matter who you are or what you can do, there will be a point in time where you feel like the awkward kid in the room, or the weirdo that just doesn’t belong. And that’s okay. Trust me, it happens to everyone. And no matter what there will be a time when all you feel is saddness and it seems like nothing can save you from it. But you have to realize that those feelings, and those moments, don’t last. Everything will blow over in it’s own time. People do love you and they really do care about you love. They do. Don’t convince yourself that they don’t. Okay? It won’t help anything.

      It’s okay to feel sad and lost and forgotten. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s when you let those feelings devour you that it becomes a problem. You can suffer a little bit but then you have to stand up and stop being weak. When you decide to be strong, to grow and be who you want to be, that’s when you become happy. It’s when you realize that you’ve had enough of being sad that you stand up and walk through the fire. It won’t be easy, nothing ever is, but it will be worth it. You’ll get hurt along the way and you will want to give up, but you won’t let anything stop you. You’re too strong to lie back down and take another beating.

      And take it from me, the Queen of Ugly and Awkward, it could be worse. It seriously could. Heck, you could be mutant with scales and fangs and other weird things. But you’re not. You’re a beautiful young lady who is being put to the test. The Universe wants to see how strong you are. We all have to go through it. So be strong, punch the Universe in the face, and go get what makes you happy.

      You’re also not alone Haylee. You have all us girls on here to help you out and listen whenever you have something bothering you. Just ask and normally someone will be lurking around the interwebs and be able to lend you a helping hand.

      Just don’t give up, Dear. You can make it through this.

      • Haylee says:

        Thank you so much, Arianna. I really want it to work and I’m going to try my hardest to achieve it. And what you’re saying reminds me of this quote:
        The rest of your life is a long time and whether you know it or not it’s being shaped right now. You can choose to blame your circumstances on fate or bad luck or bad choices or you can fight back. Things aren’t always going to be fair in the real world, that’s just the way it is but for the most part you get what you give. Let me ask you all a question. What’s worse not getting everything you wished for or getting it but finding out it’s not enough? The rest of your life is being shaped right now with the dreams you chase, the choices you make and the person you
        decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time and the rest of your life starts right now.
        And no, Vampire Diaries is not my obsession. I’m part of the fandom, yes, but Delena is my obsession. I really hated season 3 and I’m not really interested into the plotlines that much anymore. And I’m not watching the premiere for sure because it looks like a bore. I’ll watch the DE/SC scenes online though and do a quick rant of them. And I’m obsessed with Johnlock, Supernatural (except season 6 and 7. It was okay, but not really that good and I hate how it all turned into Castiel fanservice and Sera Gamble’s BS.), pre-Moffat era Doctor Who, analyzing every OTH and DC quote in the universe, writing little drabbles and stories, mustaches, Kimbra and warm, milky vanilla bean coffee.

    • Laura says:

      I get what your saying and trust me when I say, your not alone. To me, when I look at other people, its like everyone is happy and having fun and talking and I’m just watching. I try to interact and have fun too, but it always feel forced. I can’t really talk to anyone about it, only my mom. And she’s wonderful, but I really need someone as a friend, not family.
      You just got to stick it out. Sometimes it feels awful, like you’ll always be alone, and its not true. Believe me. 🙂
      Oh and btw, I love Doctor Who too! 😉

      • Laura says:

        Oh! And you weren’t being stupid! 😛 I can be a serious fangirl too sometimes. Especially when it comes to PLL or HP. 🙂

      • Haylee says:

        I know, right? I mostly not very vocal about how I really feel in public. It’s just tiring for me to bear that. And when I try talking to my mom (most of the time my parents aren’t home so I’m on my own and we never really talk much so she doesn’t understand me.), she’s too blatnant and automatically points fngers at a certain thing in my way. I know she loves me and is trying to help me, but she doesn’t really get me. It’s frustrating. Same thing with my dad. And my sister and I were never really that close and now she’s at college so……….
        And I love Doctor Who too, but I don’t like Moffatt era as much as the previous one. And YES to PLL and HP. Especially HP. I spend most of my time complaining why H/HR isn’t canon 😉

      • Laura says:

        Moffat era? Sorry, I’m new to being a Whovian. I watched the most recent series though and I’m almost done with the second series. I wish the 9th doctor didn’t leave the show though, I really liked him. But David is awesome too.
        And yeah, I can talk to my mom and sister about somethings, but not my dad. We don’t get along at all. I’m sorry about your situation with your family. You’ve always got us to talk to though. And you could always try telling your mom how you feel about the way she acts when you tell her how you feel…if that makes sense haha. 😉

      • Katie says:

        I feel like that sometimes do and I think everyone eventually does! Just know its a part of life to be upset and feel like you don’t fit in. Stay Strong <3


  • Maggie says:

    lalala whatever lalala it doesn’t matter lalala oh well lalala
    story of my life.
    wow, what a life XI

  • Haylee says:

    Sorry for the long post guys. I just got massive Delena feels reading while reading this. 🙂 And by the way I HATE Klaus and Caroline together. I get a massive gay vibe from him and Stefan though. Klefan is awesome. But at the same time I want Stefan and Caroline together. My only certain TVD ship is Delena. I ship Stefan with Caroline, Klaus and Katherine. But Steroline=OTP. I hate him and Elena together. But as a character I don’t necessarily HATE him, I think he was really poorly written in season 3 (I loved him in seasons 1 & 2 though, he was cute I guess) and he disappointed me (it’s not all just about Elena. I’ve always thought Stelena were all filled with cheeSE). We were all supposed to see this whole “Rippah” storyline with him and what did we get? We got Klaus either compelling him to do that or when his humanity was off. It didn’t come from him in the rawest, truest way (It has nothing to do with Paul. He’s an good actor, I love Paul and Torrey together, his friendships with Ian and Candice, his sense of humor is great and I think he’s hot.) And that whole Stefan turning good again thing this season was rushed and made no sense to me. Like what the hell? Even Price Peterson thought so and he doesn’t even ship Delena or Stelena. And another thing that annoys me is how Elena’s character had to take a step back so Stelena could get back together. She was finally become less of that damsel-in-distress and more of that “warrior princess” as Damon describes it. I didn’t really mind that fight in DE fight in 3×14 as I understood both POVs and I don’t think it was the best for Elena to have said what she said (it was sad to see Damon get his heart broken again as a Damon stan but I am an Elena stan too, so I understood how she felt.) But I got really annoyed with the SE porch scene, not necessarily because it was on OUR porch but because of how Elena was begging for Stefan to admit that he felt something and for them to be together again. She shouldn’t have to do that guys. I’m all for feminism and girl power and I am a big Elena fan so that scene really disturbed me. Excuse me, but he tried to kill you in a very cold and calculating way where you almost died and where your parents died so don’t just forgive him right away. Let him come to you and redeem himself like Damon had to in season 2 after he snapped Jer’s neck ( It took Elena like 12 eps to forgive him while with Stefan it took 3. But also with Damon, she was mean to him and had a strong dislike for him after that but she never expressed hatred towards Stefan after that in 3×12 and 3×13. The whole Elena forgiving Stefan quickly reminds me of the song that played during their first kiss. “You loved me because I’m fragile, when I thought I was strong” and “You’re keeping me down.” See, the problem I have with Stelena/Datherine is this:
    Damon not letting Katherine go is similar to Elena not letting go of Stefan despite being faced with situation pointing out that they need to. They both were in denial except in Elena’s case Stefan actually loves her despite doing a whole lot of crap and expecting to be accepted back into her life as before. Elena kept trying to convince herself that it is Stefan for her and the person he becomes on blood isn’t the man he really is while Damon kept trying to convince himself that Katherine loved him. They both love(d) blindly when it comes Stefan and Katherine. It is fine to accept someone but to be in denial of their flaws to do so isn’t acceptance. That is why I can’t ship either SE or DK. ~Anya (findmysoulasigohome)

    And also I have a friend who ships Datherine because she thinks they’re funny and hot together. But Damon and Elena have chemistry and banter too. The only difference is that Elena is more emotionally invested in their relationship.
    That being said I also really love Stefan and Caroline together. They remind me of Cordelia and Angel from Buffy The Vampire Slayer/Angel which is another couple that I like. Cangel <3 And I also believe them to be twin flames and I think they are so effing cute together, but not in that annoying cheesy way that Stefan and Elena are. Come on, motorcycle really? And bloody vomit 😛 Score! Imma gif that moment for everytime I watch a Stelena scene! But if I can't have Stefan and Caroline (but I do 🙁 They are so compatible and perfect together.) then I want Matt and Caroline or Rebekah and Caroline.
    But unlike most people, I don't exactly HATE Stefan for not saving Elena (I actually like him but I don't like his relationship with Damon. I will always choose Delena over Defan. To me Damon & Stefan are like enemies who've reached an uneasy truce but still have the capability to go back into war anytime, plus I hated their fight in 2×19….I hated how Stefan was like you'll never have Elena's respect which he has to work hard to earn and I admit Damon was acting a little annoying there too. Another thing is that they don't share an understanding. Stefan is just too black-and-white in his judgement: "Damon is a monster.", "Kat doesn't feel," and "Elena is so selfless and kind.", including about himself "i'm the good brother." I do think Stefan loves Elena but that Damon loves her more and that he can't find true love until he learns to love himself, becomes more mature and finds the balance between good and bad. Stefan's journey is sef-love while Damon and Elena's is romantic love. I just hate their relationship and how Stefan always coddles Elena, but he's OK I guess. I just love how him and Caroline share similar traits and how they parallel each other and how everytime someone wants to threaten Stefan they use Caroline as bait (Jules, Damon, Klaus and Katherine have all use this tactic.) but after he learns to falls in love with himself, him and Caroline can date and plan a June wedding. I used to ship Tyler and Caroline, but not anymore. I can deal with them better than Klaroline, but don't prefer them. Klaroline have no chemistry and make no sense to me.

    • Laura says:

      Hey Haylee! Sorry if this comes off a bit rude, I don’t mean to be. But your posting uber long comments and they don’t have anything to do with Lisi or her blog post or anything of that sort. Yes, I know that other people, including myself, post comments that do not have to do with this blog, but your posts are so lengthy and they seem to be only directed at people who like vamp diaries. Maybe find a fansite for vampire diaries to post comments like this. I’m really sorry if I come of rude, it just takes up so much of the blog and its not even about lisi or the blog….

  • Haylee says:

    I wrote in this previous post how the TVD triangle parallels the Dawson’s Creek triangle and what it means for their endgame. But a few discussions on tumblr got me thinking and while I still hold that Damon is Elena’s grown up love like Pacey was Joey’s and that Stefan is Elena’s pure once but childish love like Dawson was Joey’s, I do not believe Stefan and Elena to be soulmates despite Kevin Williamson calling them so (because even with his definition of soulmates being friends does not fit Stefan/Elena since they went directly from strangers to lovers and skipped the whole friends stage) and given how TVD has turned out after the season 3 finale, I think the show is relooking at the fact that Stefan and Elena have been called soulmates.

    In the Dawson’s Creek finale, Dawson tells Joey that no matter who she chooses, it’s always going to be them and that what they have “goes beyond friendship, beyond lover and it’s forever”. Joey agrees and says, “You and me always”. Kevin Williamson said that he wanted Joey to end up with Pacey because he is her romantic love but at the same time he wanted Dawson and Joey till the end of time. Basically according to him, the concept of soulmates is synonymous with “always”. Take it in TVD’s context after 3×22 and where you had Elena saying “It’s always going to be Stefan” and “It’s you and me, Stefan. Always”, it got turned into “I can’t think about always[with Stefan]. All I can think about is right now”.

    When you look back at 2×20, you get to know that there never was an “always” with Stefan in Elena’s mind because she didn’t want to turn into a vampire and she wanted kids which she couldn’t get with him. She knew all of this but she avoided addressing it because the reality was too painful as she believed him to be her “epic love”, her “soulmate” because after the accident when she didn’t have the will to live anymore, she thought he brought her back to life. But in her own words, he came into her life when she needed someone and she fell for him instantly. Stefan did not bring her back to life because somehow even with him around she couldn’t live as freely and uninhibited as she used to; he only became her crutch which she is not willing to let go of. She believes that one “should love the person that makes them glad to be alive” but that does not equate to feeling alive. There have been hints throughout the three seasons that there is a lot more to Elena than she lets on. There is the obvious she’s feisty when she is angry but there is also that carefree girl of whom we got a glimpse of in 1×11 and we got a glimpse of the passion that she holds inside her in 3×19. Both these instances when she let go of her inhibitions were with Damon. In 3×22 it was implied that she wants a love that consumes her, passion, adventure and even a little bit of danger which means that basically deep down she wants to live life to the fullest. In all her scenes with Stefan, never once did I see this girl. Damon knew within a minute of meeting her what she wanted out of life and he has always recognized this fire inside her, her want for more, apart from her qualities of being compassionate and selfless which Stefan hasn’t. So if Stefan does not recognize a defining part of Elena, how is he her soulmate?

    Dawson defined a soulmate as:

    Lilly Leery: What’s a soul mate?

    Dawson: It’s uh… Well, it’s like a best friend, but more. It’s the one person in the world that knows you better than anyone else. It’s someone who makes you a better person. Actually, they don’t make you a better person, you do that yourself because they inspire you. A soul mate is someone who you carry with you forever. It’s the one person who knew you and accepted you and believed in you before anyone else did or when no one else would. And no matter what happens, you’ll always love her. Nothing can ever change that.

    When I look at this quote with Stefan and Elena in mind, somehow it just doesn’t fit. Stefan and Elena were never friends. They don’t know defining parts of each other. Stefan doesn’t see Elena’s want for more out of life and Elena doesn’t want to believe that the darker side of him is actually a part of him. Stefan doesn’t make Elena better but rather stagnates her because he is too scared to challenge her for the fear that she might hate him and her love for him might lessen. We must remember that Kevin Williamson was the one who wrote the Dawson’s Creek finale and if he defines a soulmate this way, then I don’t see how Stefan and Elena are soulmates.

    I think that the season 3 finale is proof of the fact that while TVD parallels the dynamics of DC, there are also changes that make it unique. Julie Plec said in the VRO interview:

    I think that when you’re 18, obviously, it is very difficult to be able to look ahead and be able to understand what “always” means…and that remains a big predicament for people well into their adulthood about “What is the best love for me?”

    So where we have in DC “always” standing separate of romantic love, in TVD these two go hand in hand. Where Elena can’t think about always, from the 3×22 Damon/Elena flashback it was hinted that Damon is that “always” as Damon consumes her and she wants a love that consumes her. With Elena becoming a vampire, that “always” is now literal where it wasn’t in Dawson’s Creek. At the end of DC’s season 3, Joey chooses Pacey despite not getting complete closure with Dawson while in the season 3 finale of TVD, Elena does not choose Damon but rather Stefan because she never “unfell” for him. Julie Plec said about whether Elena will ever tell Damon she loves him:

    I don’t think Elena could have said, “I love you, Damon” and even if she does love him, even if she has these deep feelings for him because she still loves Stefan and to respect that relationship and to be committed in that moment as she decided to choose that relationship. You know, there’s still that story left to tell before those words can come out of her mouth.

    This only means that Elena will go after Damon only once Stefan and her are completely over beyond doubt. Where DC defined the difference between romantic love and “always”, I think the writers won’t follow the same pattern here but Elena’s romantic love, that is Damon, will be her “always”. I haven’t used the term “soulmates” to describe Damon/Elena because what they have transcends soulmates but that’s a discussion for another time.
    ^This. This effing this! Anya (findmysoulasigohome) is just brilliant.

  • Malini C. says:

    Dear Lisi,

    I absolutely love your tips. I come home from school and look in the mirror everyday and freak out, thinking, “THAT was how I looked the whole day, because I could’ve sworn I looked gorgeous this morning…” I am going to restrain myself from looking in any sort of ‘reflective insrument.’

    I would really love it if you gave tips on how to write as ah-mazing as you do! I’m a fellow writer but I know that my writing could surely be as fabulous as yours if I had tips from a professional!!


  • Maggie says:

    ♪I will never say never♪
    CRAP! I will never get this stupid trundle put away!

  • rujuta says:

    omg guys i decided to start blogging:) its so fun:D so click on my name if you want to check it out:)

  • please help says:

    anyone have someone who litterally tries to ruin your life? how do u deal with them? and especially if they are your twin sister

    • rujuta says:

      im kinda a revenge type of persdon:p so i would try to ruin her back but this is definitely not recommended so just ask her why…..

  • Arianna says:

    I might have a crush…

  • Haylee says:

    This is my playlist 😉
    1. No Light, No Light by Florence + the Machine
    2. Sky’s Still Blue by Andrew Belle
    3. In My Veins by Andrew Belle
    4. All Those Pretty Lights by Andrew Belle
    5. Make It Without You by Andrew Belle
    6. Never Let Me Go by Florence + the Machine
    7. Heartlines by Florence + The Machine
    8. Drumming Song by Florence + The Machine
    9. Wicked Game by James Vincent McMarrow
    10. Give Me Love by Ed Sheeran
    11. What Makes Us Girls by Lana Del Rey
    12. Blinding by Florence + the Machine
    13. Diet Mountain Dew by Lana Del Rey
    14. Born To Die by Lana Del Rey
    15. Criminal by Fiona Apple
    16. Ironic by Alanis Morrisette
    17. Love Song by Sara Bareilles
    18. Breathe Again by Sara Bareilles
    19. One More Night by Maroon5
    20. She Will Be Loved by Maroon5
    21. Homewrecker by Marina and The Diamonds
    22. Caroline by Alex Clare
    23. I Crave You (Dubstep) by Flight Facilities ft Adventure Club
    24. Damn Your Eyes (Cover) by Alex Clare
    25. Too Close by Alex Calre
    26. Hey Na Na by Katie Herzig
    27. Love You by Alex Clare
    28. Never Be The Same by RED
    29. Pieces by RED
    30. Everything by Lifehouse
    31. Find A Way by Tyler Blackburn
    32. Up All Night by Alex Clare
    33. Run (Cover) by Leona Lewis
    34. Say (All I Need) by OneRepublic
    35. Feel Again by OneRepublic
    36. Between by Courrier
    37. Hawk Eyes by The Kicks
    38. It Girl by Twirl
    39. Anna Sun by Walk The Moon
    40. Temptation by Moby

  • Maggie says:

    song connections:
    Selena-who says your not perfect?

    Bieber-she don’t like the lights
    Selena- HIT THE LIGHTS!

    thats all i got, and they all revolve around Gomez…. Got more? i wanna add to the list

  • Maggie says:

    I failed at life today. wanna know why? I am a fail at drawing eyelashes. and i was totally graceful (note the sarcasm) in my witches hat today. spirit week at school so it was hat day. God, i think it’s all just because i’m pms’n. that’s probably it. I mean failed at life? come on! Yet it still feels like it. stupid eyelashes.

  • Haylee says:

    Zula- OMGGGGG! You know how you recommended the song Anna Sun to me? It was in TVD!

  • Arianna says:

    Thanks for the picture/shout out, Lisi. I’m trying to hold on but it’s so hard when all I get are no’s. And I don’t see a “yes” in the near future.

  • Syd says:

    I want to try the compliment journal, that is actually really smart! Imagine how awkward it would be if someone came across it, hahaha!

  • emily* says:

    i agree with the compliment journal in health class a few years ago our teacher made us write on a slip of paper one nice thing about a student until we wrote about every student in the class, then we put the slips in an envelope for them to take home and read it really works

  • Anita says:

    Good advice Lisi thank you:D

  • srishti says:

    I love compliments!!!! They make me feel all content and perfect (even though nobody’s perfect) 🙂 🙂 But sometimes when i go somewhere, feeling fabulos and then no one confirms the feelng… It kinda sucks. Even on fb, when I think my new profile pic is sweet and hardly anyone ‘likes’ it… I feel.. Umm… to put it simply, disappointed. But to leave on a cheerful note, thanks Lisi, that was a pretty inspiring post!!!

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  • ashley says:

    guys i need advice. ok so there is this guy in my neighborhood, he’s cute, but he’s totally perverted, annoying, stupid, mean, non-sincere, shallow, stuck up and popularity obsessed. and i think my best friend is falling for him. i know its not really my business and you should never mess with your bff’s relationships( how many movies have we seen about this??) and i should be the supportive best friend. but i cant stand the sight of him. so im really rude to him and i can tell that she doesnt know what to do when im mean to him. so what on earth am i supposed to do??????? try to like him? avoid them???

    • Hey, Ashley. I know I haven’t been on much but I saw your question and have had personally experience with a situation similar to this one. Even though there’s no way on Earth I’d ever be able to fully understand your feelings or your friend’s feelings toward this particular guy, I do know that one of the best courses of action is communication. STARTING with your friend. Maybe she won’t get it at first. Maybe she’ll think, “Well you’ve never liked him anyway so why should I believe you?” But so what? Remind her that she’s your friend and you’re only looking out for her. That you wanted to be honest with her and wanted to MAKE SURE she knew what this guy was all about before she made any decisions about him. Tell her TRUTHFULLY that you’ll never judge her if she continues to like him and that you’ll (try your hardest to) stop judging him. It really is HER decision, but as her friend, you’ve got to be upfront with why you are the way you are around him because maybe she doesn’t know. Maybe she’s suspected, but never got any confirmation…

      After you talk with your friend, there is another completely optional course of action that may or may not be right for you. But there’s also the idea of communicating with THE GUY. By letting him know he makes other people feel uncomfortable around him, you make him responsible for his future actions IN ADDITION to possibly helping him see that his current M.O. ain’t working. This could definitely help him in the future when he’s in college and the girls don’t deal with pervy dudes. It could also help him right now to find it within himself to become a better person, and maybe even be the kind of guy you’d “approve of” for your friend. If you do this, don’t put him on blast. Just like you’d do with your friend, pulling him aside, talking about how he makes YOU feel and why YOU do the things that you do will definitely make it seem less like you’re attacking him and more like you’re truly trying to just talk to him.

      Hope this helps, Love,

    • Maggie says:

      oh my god the same thing happend to me. weird thing? my friend’s name was ashley. she asked him out via text on my driveway and he responded i wanna just be friends and she said good me 2, i heard a rumor you liked me. he said cool beans and believed her. what an idiot. He wasn’t really popularity obsessed. though… anyway then i saw he was a good guy and started falling for him myself… If he does act like a total bastard to her, you’ll be there with the shovel to bury him alive as soon as you see a tear 🙂 or the shovel could be for the bucked of ice cream, whatever works. he could work out or she could see the light on her own. don’t push her just let her go for it. you’ll be there to catch her if she falls no matter what.

      • ashley says:

        thanks maggie and des:) right now im just gonna wait and see. hopefully they never get together…..

  • rujuta says:

    lisi i think this is like one of the best posts ever:) my self esteem keeps dipping up and down:/ but i just brainwash myself(“you are an awesome person”, stop, smile, repeat:)) if im ever feeling really down about myself i think about my talents. a lot. sort of like the compliment book. or i get one of my friends or my sister to cheer me up or i sing my lungs out and dance around like a maniac in front of the mirror:) today i auditioned for the school play(singing) and everyone clapped like crazy afterwards so im gonna be on a high at least till tomorrow but soon ill need these tips:(:p

  • Anjor :) says:

    I LOVE I Feel Pretty/Unpretty! It’s one of my favorite Glee mashups! I just thought it was a quiet, understated, but soothing tune. I love it so much 🙂
    Lisi, I cannot even explain how much I loved this post. It was amazing. That’s exactly what I go through in October (Scene in the Morning: “OH MY GAWD MOM I HAVE NOTHING TO WEAR!”) Sigh. October. Fall can be both good and bad (as mentioned above). Here are my tips for fall (and those fading hair do’s and clothes!):
    -Take more walks outside. Bring a friend. Visit a park or a state park (the fall colors will be gorgeous!) or just walk outside around you neighborhood. It’s calm and peaceful (usually) and the leaves floating down around makes it feel magical
    -Drink hot drinks. I usually bring a mug of coffee or hot chocolate to school every morning (so does everyone else) and it really helps.
    -Bake! I don’t know why, but there’s something about baking in the fall. Get your friends together or make something you’ve always wanted to try.
    -Help your Mom or your Dad (or Sister or Brother) rake leaves. It’s a bit of an exercise but it’s fun and it’s good for family bonding.
    Hope this helps! 🙂

  • Laila says:

    This is my depressed stance. When you’re depressed, it makes a lot of difference how you stand. The worst thing you can do is straighten up and hold your head high because then you’ll start to feel better. If you’re going to get any joy out of being depressed, you’ve got to stand like this.
    – Charles M Schulz

    Kinda reminds me of feeling happy being unhappy x)
    AWESOME post. Going with the Glee song you mentioned, I recommend making a whole superhero playlist, you know songs that are kind of empowering. Mine’s a bit like this:

    Kelly Clarkson’s – What Doesn’t Kill You
    Boyce Avenue – Titanium (’cause I don’t like l’original)
    Demi Lovato – Skyscraper
    Destinee & Paris – I’m On A Roll
    Taylor Swift – Eyes Open
    Britt Nicole – Breakthrough
    Outlandish – Triumf
    Natasha Bedingfield – Pocketful of Sunshine
    Owl City – Take to the Sky
    Delta Goodrem – Together We Are One
    Sarah Bareilles – King of Anything
    Lindsey Stirling & Can’t Stop Won’t Stop – Come With Us (just ’cause Lindsey’s in it x) )

    IDEAS, anyone? Any more songs?
    And then, and then, you jump on your bed. Or the trampoline in your backyard. Therapy.

  • Omg Lisi I love you so much for this post! It’s just what I needed to keep plowing through the week. Love ya. I can’t wait for the Phoenix Five and the Gracelet.

  • Libby says:

    I love the reference to Massie!! Will she be mentioned as a celebrity in the P5??

  • Julia says:

    I used your advice (the not look at yourself) when I was in 3rd grade (I’m in 7th now) and I thought I was so cool! Ha! 🙂

  • Arianna says:

    Nadia & Haylee- Thanks, but I’m really not. Trust me on this one. I have plenty of males to back me up. 😉
    Rosella- Maybe, maybe not. No one wants to represent superhero stories.

  • Mira says:

    Great post Lisi! I haven’t been very confident lately-maybe these tips will help with that! 🙂

  • Haylee says:

    These tips are awesome Lisi and I can’t wait to read P5!
    Zula-Did you see my reply on the last blah-g?

  • Laura says:

    Hey Lisi!
    Great post! I love these tips, especially tips 5(gleek forever and always♥) and 2. To put a spin on two, instead of getting compliments, try giving them. I know how amazing it is to get a sincere compliment, and it feels just as fab to know your giving that to someone else. Whether its your friend, or a checkout lady, compliement them on their jewlery or name or whatever. It really does feel great.
    Laura Marie♥

    • rujuta says:

      seriously complimenting people makes me feel so good because you can just see them light up as they smile brightly and thank you:D:D<3

  • I love the compliment idea! I’ll give it a try. 😀

  • nadiabean21 says:

    Lisi, thanks for all the tips they seem like they really work. I will definitely try them soon! Sheridan Spencer (is that how you spell her name?) seems like a pretty cool character. I’m so excited the P5 to come out!!

  • Rebecca says:

    Good tips! But won’t a compliment journal be annoying to write down everything and remember it?

  • Arianna says:

    I’m up to nine rejections letters for my book. Confidence is not something I have at the moment. My Creative Writing Professor said I had a real talent for writing, but the last poem I wrote was terribly awful. I don’t know. Also, I’m about as fugly as one can get so the only hearts that’ll be breaking is my own. But thank you so much for the tips. Maybe I’ll try them tomorrow…

    • nadiabean21 says:

      Arianna.. you are gorgeous!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And an amazing writer. If your Professor said that the poem you wrote was terrible he needs to be fired. Like right now.

    • Don’t give up! I’m sure your book will find its perfect home soon!

    • Haylee says:

      Are you f!@#ing kidding me? You are gorgeous. Don’t give up on yourself too easily.

      • thecrazydesi15 says:

        Do you know how many rejections letters J.K. Rowling got? A lot more than nine. Einstien’s parents were told that their child was incredibly dumb and would never grow up to anything. There are so many other great people in history who persevered and have achieved so much greatness. You have to keep going. If the girls here like it, they’re really the type of audience you’ll eventually be selling it to-and if they like it, so many other girls and/or boys will like it. Keep going because it’s going to pay off. I can tell.
        (And if we didn’t produce crappy poetry every once in a while, then we wouldn’t be able to call ourselves human)

      • Maggie says:

        Anjor- and she never got a flat out yes, just someone threw it away and someone else found it in the trash and loved it.


    • Arianna says:

      I feel like first comments should count if they’re actual comments. Like, responses to the Blah-g. But that’s just me. Congrats Nadia. 🙂

      • nadiabean21 says:

        At first I said first comment, but then I posted a real comment. But I don’t know what happened to it. I’m at the computers at my school..

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