No Thanks, Thanksgiving.

If Thanksgiving is a judge, I am requesting permission to approach the bench. Maybe I’ll be held in contempt or maybe a new precedent will be formed. In this mock trial you, my dear reader, are all twelve jurors. You decide.

My proposal? I would like the American people to add a dash of No Thanks to Thanksgiving 2017 by saying nay to five toxic behaviors. If you do, I guarantee you will have five more things to be grateful for.

The NO THANKS Thanksgiving List.

  1. I happen to know that there is someone in your life that doesn’t make you feel good. They have you believing you’re not good enough. That if you were only (insert) they would treat you better. You feel heavy and miserable after you hang out with them. Still, you think they’ll change. You hope they’ll change. You kind of know they won’t but you also believe that with your help and patience they will.  You are wrong. Say NO THANKS to this relationship. Decide right now that you are going to take the steps required to detach. I’m not kidding. You know who they are. Now let them know who YOU are whether they like it or not.
  2. Say, NO THANKS to your devices on Thanksgiving. No social media. No texts. No posts. No checking emails. (Yes to navigation, but that’s it.) You say you’re grateful. Act like it by being present.
  3. Say NO THANKS to gossip. It doesn’t matter if you dish it out or gobble it up, gossiping will make you sound like a turkey. And you’re not. You subscribe to this blog so you clearly have your finger on the pulse. Swap weird invention ideas or spirit animals or favorite excerpts from The Dirty Book Club. Play charades. Stay kind.
  4. Say NO THANKS to complaining about your weight. Someone worked really hard to make all the food you’re love-hating. Eat. Enjoy. Join a gym after New Years.
  5.  Say NO THANKS to worrying about what people think about you. It’s a waste of time. They’re not thinking about you. They’re thinking about themselves. Trust me.

 

Have a fabulous NO THANKSGIVING. I am grateful for you all.

 

xoxo Lisi

 

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  • Kayla says:

    I love this! It is so amazing! But what if for number 1 it is one of your friends? One of my friends have these flaws, but, yes, I still do hope that she will change and be more accepting of my flaws. I don’t want to just give up on her! I want her to change.

  • Brittany says:

    I needed this so much! Thank you Lisi, you are amazing!

  • Lauren says:

    So this title is clever! I’m so thankful for your blog, Lisi! I look forward to reading it every Wednesday! I think you have an outstanding perspective on life. I’m always trying to find more ways to enjoy how I live, and these tips you gave us all are on point! Sometimes life can be so unfair. A lot of it has to do with finding the right people in your life too. I’m realizing that not everyone can have all the qualities of what you want in a friend, and maybe just looking for the good in them makes it easier and less judgemental. LOL. Being present is not tough for me because I don’t like being on my phone unless I’m bored, and it annoys me when people are!
    But yeah, I love how you’re so honest, it’s real. Have a fabulous Thanksgiving! XO
    – L

    • Lisi Harrison says:

      Thanks Lauren! I hope today’s Blog helps you with some of your friend issues. And yes, life can be super unfair. It needs an upgrade.

  • Andrew says:

    No Thanks!

  • Kiana says:

    Lisi, this is great! Over this past year I have definitely been listening (and good) to these. I care less about what people think of me, of not being honest because it might offend someone, etc. It’s all bullshit. I believe that I should be honest no matter what. If the person responds well, they appreciate it and they matter. If they don’t, they are a waste of time and you should drop them.
    However, I am just having an issue with your number one. What if that person is your mom? Or your sister? Or your boyfriend’s sister? I do completely fine if “friends” are like this because it happens a lot, but if family ties with it, how do you deal? I wish my parents would divorce actually.

    —Kiana

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